Marriage on My Mind

I usually don't like to post unless I have pictures to share, but I've had something on my mind that I'd like to write about. Lately, I have been hearing so many negative things about marriage. That all marriages eventually fail, that there is no such thing as soul mates, that many people live their entire married lives unhappy and yearning for more. Yesterday, some friends were talking about marriage and nonchalantly mentioned that it's a no-brainer to get a prenuptial agreement. Then this morning, the radio DJs were talking about the soul mate concept, saying the idea is foolish and gives people false expectations that can never be met. This afternoon, I overheard a coworker talking about her parents marriage. She was saying how much they irritate each other and how they have only stayed married for convention's sake and for the kids. Additionally, I have a few friends whose marriages are falling apart, and I've also heard about some horrible divorces on the horizon of couples my age! Although I hear all of this going on, I still believe with all my heart that marriage is a beautiful, wonderful thing. For me, it's been the best thing that's ever happened to me. The greatest gift of my life.

I am so thankful for my parents, who taught me what goes into making a happy, lasting marriage. While it's easy to fall in love, staying in love takes a lot of hard work, selflessness, and patience. I believe that soul mates do exist, but probably not in the way that others may think. When you marry someone, you choose to love them unconditionally. You choose to be loyal, faithful, and true to them through both his ups and downs and yours. When things get hard or don't seem to be working, you don't give up but work through it. You help each other reach your true potential, by being one another's cheerleader, shoulder to cry on, and best friend. You become one another's soul mate by choosing to be the best that you can for each other.

I know I've only been married for almost three years, but I have learned more about myself and about love than at any other time in my life. My husband has been the best. He's loved me unconditionally each and every day of our marriage. Even when I am being a total pill and resisting his affection, he still showers me with love and compliments. Thank you, Sebastian, for being my best friend and eternal companion! I can only try to love him as perfectly as he has loved me.

Let's all be a little less selfish and give our spouses the love, respect, and admiration they deserve! Marriage rocks! Let's keep them alive and well!